'No one is perfect', 'Kutram parkil sutram illai'
Cycle of relationships - Get close to someone, know more about them, honeymoon period , know some more, disenchantment - then comes the million dollar question to withdraw or to pursue
When an issue disenchants a relationship with one individual how come we accept another person and ignore the issue with them ?
What is the unique factor with each relationship that makes us forgive, forget with one and break off from the other?
Subscribe to:
Post Comments (Atom)
14 comments:
good question. Next question please.
TRUST !!!!
Hope!
And I also think we learn from each relationship and a s a result we beocme less demanding, more flexible and accepting.
Perhaps!
I was also thinking about the same. I didn't get an answer.
Isit expectaions that makes the difference? or possibility of occuring again? dunno I am still confused
I think it is some kind of a bond which an unknown force bringsforth.Isn't that the reason when instantly like or dislike a person?
Sometimes, even if an issue is not killing, it makes us fight with our loved ones, because we believe we have a right to get the best out of our relationship with them..
With some people not as close, we choose to ignore them because they may not interfere with our expectations from that relationship.
If it so happens that we break off from someone for an issue that we may, on hindsight consider not worth breaking up over, then we choose not to give the same importance to the same issue in our next relationship.
It's like not wanting to make the same mistake all over again.
But it's a very complex ask, Paavai, to want to be able to manage relationships without blemish.. at least I think so!
Drive out the ego and build up trust!
manda kaanchu pochchu akka, unga kelviya parthuu!
Each relationship is unique. Whether it be the relationship with the neighbourhood shopkeeper or the maid who comes to help you at home or your closest confidente. Expectations (and loads of it mind you) are attached to a relationship, Some justified and some not so justified. Justified from your point of view. The other person has a minimum role to play as it is you who is expecting.When the expectations don't match performance then conflicts arise. Some conflicts get resolved but some remain. Too many unresolved conflicts lead to a breakup.As Usha(ageless bonding) has very correctly pointed out in one of her earlier posts, we need to know at what level of comfortability we are in a relationship.When the comfort zone is disturbed then the inconvenience of the relationship strikes us strong. Sometimes the vagaries of time and experience demands a new kind of relationship from the same person who is unable to cater to the new demands.Then What?
'kutram parkil sutram illai' - So true Paavai. No idea though as to why we forgive in some relations and break up with others. Nice post
I agree with yathirigan, trust is the undertone of every relationship. However, its the strength of the vibes that tend to pull the relationship together even if there is a doubt on the level of trust. Trust also neednt be the best. It shud be balanced between the two persons.
Random Access
The search has just begun !!!
daydreamer - next question in today's blog - try to give an answer :)-
yathreegan - i agree trust - even when there is a breach of trust we tend to move on with the relationship with one and with another we break off ...
usha - agreed totally, it is a learning process
dubukku - when you get an answer do share it with me :)- i am lost too
ram - my disconnect is there, when one person exhibits double standards I tend to brush it off and get very upset when someone else does it ...
kala - truly wish i can crack that code of unknown bond
vinesh - good luck for your blemishless relationship - i truly hope it turns out to be that way for you.
ambi - all the comments seem to provide a direction to the answer - my mandai is somewhat cooled and hope it is the same for you now after reading the comments in this blog
mythraee - you have said it well
wa - glad that i am not alone in feeling lost - on another note - i am shaken up after reading some of the posts for blanknoise project and your words are so true - not one has escaped from harrassment at some stage in their lives or the other for being a girl/woman
random access - 'the search has just begun' :) -
Cool blog, interesting information... Keep it UP »
Keep up the good work electric wheelchairs Saab 9 3 sport saloon passenger air bag java roulette Lesbian orgy stories Freestrippoker free strip poker Auto high insurance risk wisconsin piece of crap Dental insurance ohio Bazooka spyware download taxi eyeglass frames eyewear Voice over ip services satellite voip internet telephony
"Kutram Parkin Sutram Illai" holds good only if you "Accept people as they are" :)
Post a Comment